#BiWeek Day 3: The problem of triads for bisexuals

The ways in which bisexuality is portrayed in popular media is radically different from the ways in which bisexuals choose to represent themselves. This difference is most clearly evident in visual culture where the most common representation of bisexuality is the triad, or the image of three (=tri) people.

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Examples of the triad in media are the single most common convention for coding bisexuality. Take for example the New York Times Magazine article “The Scientific Quest to Prove Bisexuality Exists” published March 20, 2014:

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This image – in a prominent mass media publication – depicts a man separated into two halves: in one half, a woman is nuzzled up to his cheek, and the other half a man is nuzzled up to his ear. Presumably the man is bisexual and therefore split into two parts: his heterosexual self and his homosexual self. This visual depiction of bisexuality supports the false notion that bisexuals are torn between two “opposite” desires and they experience equal and constant attraction to both men and women simultaneously. Furthermore, the triad represented in this way suggests that bisexuals have simultaneous liaisons with heterosexual and homosexual partners.

This popular use of the triad is also closely connected with the hyper sexualization of the bisexual. In these cases the triad is commonly presented in varying states of undress and/or in a bed. Many of these images also play on the heterosexual male fantasy of having two female partners simultaneously. For example, the article in The Guardian from March 20, 2014 with the headline: “Make up your mind! The science behind bisexuality.”

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In this image we see three attractive young people sharing a bed. A man is sitting up between two sleeping women and smoking a cigarette – the cigarette suggests to the viewer that the three individuals just had satisfying sex, as does the smile on the man’s face. This may have been a suitable image if the article had been about having a threesome, but the headline—and the article—are attempting to explain the science behind bisexuality. While the image is intended to illustrate an article on bisexuality, the image is fundamentally misleading. The women in the image are asleep and to the side and the man is awake and in the middle. He is the central figure – it is a picture of him. So who is the bisexual in the image? Is he? Are they all? What is the image attempting to do? It seems that the goal is to titillate, to excite, and to satisfy a particularly heterosexual fantasy rather than to discuss the reality of bisexuality. This hypersexualization once again references the mistaken idea (or heterosexual male fantasy) that bisexuality is only expressed through simultaneous sex acts.

Many of these examples are salacious but they occur with surprisingly regularity in the mainstream media. This next image is taken from an article on the website of the American Association of Retired Persons (Febuary 17, 2016) titled: ‘Am I Discovering I’m Bisexual?’

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As previously mentioned, images such as these are common and range from the more inoffensive to the salacious. The resulting effects are that we should think of bisexuals as fundamentally torn between their internal hetero and homo desires, requiring simultaneous partners, and completely untrustworthy partners. And what’s more? In all these images it is never clear exactly which individuals are bisexual. Are all three members of the triad bisexual? While this is one possible way to read the image, another way to read what’s going on in these images is to believe that one of person in the triad is the actual bisexual while the others are either just in it for the fun or being deceived.

The most important thing to understand in these popular media representations of bisexuality is that these images were only ever used by out-group, non-bisexual identifying organizations. The use of triads to represent bisexuality is highly disliked and critiqued by bisexuals themselves.

Interested in reading more? Feel free! My work is available for free online: Technologies of Visibility: New Mediations of Bisexuality

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  1. I guess my only problem with triads is that I’m not approached for them as much as I’d like. I’m a bi man, and I know a lot of other bi men. Hardly any are monogamous or want to be. There are so many catch 22s for us. We’re either not queer enough if we’re with women, or if we ditch a hetero-normative relationship style then we’re suddenly too queer. I avoid any public discussion of sex because of this. My current presentation to the “angry-bi-activist machine” is as a “good bisexual”. I’m married, and I talk about health disparities, and closet issues, and bi erasure, etc. Faith C. sent me a friend request after reading some of my writing. But, I hate this sort of article. You don’t want a 3-some? Great. I do. I have had them. I will have more. And among men, this is nothing shocking or new or rare.

    There was a meme floating around showing bi (presumably women’s) dating experiences online. It was a large wedge of a pie labeled couples who want you to join them for a 3-some, followed by a bunch of tiny wedges – dudes who think you bisexuality is hot, etc.. finally a tiny wedge of good dates. For one, everyone’s online dating experience is that tiny wedge of good dates, not just bi people. And more importantly and ironically given the purpose of the meme – the largest demographic represented in the pie chart are the couples looking for 3-somes. So, two people looking for a bisexual 3way….isn’t that the triad this piece says we’re not? If that’s not us, then why are so few complaining that so many are looking for that???

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    1. Hi OutSocialBiClosetActivistBi,

      We’re talking about two different things. Triads are a form of visual representation and have nothing to do with the reality of threesomes or the desire for threesomes among bisexuals. For many bisexuals, open relationships and polyamory are a healthy and celebrated part of their lives. I support all forms of consensual relationships, including consensual sexual relations with multiple partners. The triad is a stereotype continuously used in popular media as the dominant way to represent bisexuality, and it often portrays bisexuals as overly sexualized, emotionally torn, and/or deceitful. The triad is what we call a ‘convention’ in visual media, and doesn’t have anything to do with actual diversity among bisexuals and their range of emotional, physical, and romantic desires, wants, and needs. The reasons I find the triad problematic are outlined in my blog post and in much greater detail in my full dissertation (which is available online so feel free to check it out.) I hope that helps clarify. If it doesn’t, please feel free to continue the conversation here on the blog, or contact me via email or tumblr (both links are on this website.)

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